Retirement with a Spouse: Retiring on the Same Page

What does a good retirement look like to you? Does it resemble the retirement that your spouse or partner has in mind? Is it kind of similar? 

The Social Security Administration currently projects an average retirement of 18 years for a man and 21 years for a woman (assuming retirement at age 65).

Sharing the same vision of retirement, or at least respecting the difference in your and your spouse’s retirement vision, seems crucial to retirement happiness. But if it hasn’t been a part of your conversations together, how can you start talking about something so massive?

In this article, we’re diving into retirement with a spouse and how you both can retire on the same page.

What kind of retirement does your spouse or partner imagine?

During years of working, parenting and making ends meet, many couples never really get around to talking about what retirement should look like.

If spouses or partners have quite different attitudes about money or dreams that don’t align, that conversation may be deferred for years. Even if they are great communicators, assumptions about what the other wants for the future may prove inaccurate.  

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Talking about retirement with your spouse: are you discussing retirement, or not?

According to a recent survey by Fidelity, seven in ten couples say they communicate at least very well with their partner about financial issues.

Couples that do communicate with each other are more than twice as likely to report that they expect to live a comfortable lifestyle in retirement. They are also more likely to report their financial household’s financial health as “excellent” or “very good.”2

If you’re having trouble building a retirement strategy with your significant other, working with a financial professional may help.

According to the same survey, couples that work with a financial professional are more likely to talk about money with each other, feel confident about their finances, and agree on their visions of retirement. This may explain why nearly half of all Baby Boomers work with a financial professional.2

If you need help navigating your own personal situation, please be sure to contact our office before making any changes. We can help you look at all angles of your circumstances and create a strategy that’s aligned with your and your spouse’s financial goals.

Be sure to talk about what you want for the future.

A few simple questions can get the conversation going, and you might even want to chat about it over a meal or coffee in a relaxing setting. Dreaming and strategizing together, even on the most basic level, gives you a chance to reacquaint yourselves with your financial needs, goals and personalities. 

Here’s some great questions to get the retirement conversation started:

  • Ask each other what you see yourselves doing in retirement – individually as well as together. Is the way you are saving and investing conducive to those dreams?
  • Think about whether you are making the most of your retirement savings potential. Could you save more? Do you need to? Are you both contributing to tax-advantaged retirement accounts? Are you comfortable with the amount of risk you are assuming?
  • If your significant other is handling the household finances, are you prepared to take over in case of an emergency?
  • What about an estate plan?

When one half of a couple is the “hub” for money matters and investment decisions, the other spouse or partner needs to at least have an understanding of them. If the unexpected occurs, you will want that knowledge.

Speaking of knowledge, you should also both know who the beneficiaries are for your retirement plans, workplace retirement accounts, and investment accounts, and you both need to know where the relevant paperwork is located.

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A shared vision of retirement is great, and respect for individual variations on it is just as vital.

A conversation about how you see retirement today can give you that much more input to prepare for tomorrow. 

As a fiduciary financial advisor, I’m able to take a 360-degree angle look at a financial plan to make sure that retirement planning is not only included for but done to the fullest with even the most unexpected future in mind.

If you feel you need to prepare more for the future or reexamine your existing retirement planning strategy, I’d love to set up some time to chat. 

We’re happy to work with you either in person, over the phone, or virtually, based on your preference. Give our office a call and we can schedule some time together.

1 – SSA.gov, 2022
2 – Fidelity.com, 2021